Hellooooo blogger world!
Hope you all are enjoying a little R'n'R on this beautiful, but chilly Sunday morning.
Myself I am getting ready to take my youngest son over to my father's house for his official birthday party. Last night we had a small intimate party with just the three of us. Dinner, cupcakes, chips and a movie. Our original plans for the Louisiana Renaissance Festival were twarted when the storms came through but we purchased Ice Age 3:Dawn of the Dinosaurs and stayed home instead. My son, Nicholas, got a Star Wars action figure, Terminator 3:Rise of the Machines for his PS2 and Transformers 2:Revenge of the fallen DVD. Too sum up the entire evening, It rocked!
Now today we will be having a Baskin Robbins ice cream cake, which btw PLEASE make certain you check the size before you order! We ordered 1/2 a sheet and OMG it was small! Pizza, soda and a turkey dinner later this evening. Lots of good food and great company.
What more could an 11 year old ask for you say?
Well here's my rant. And frankly I don't give a frog's fat back quarters if the people, or should I say cold heartless dicks responsible read this or not.
The 'more' that any child could ask for is just to be loved by his family, and I don't mean just parents. I mean grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. They only ask to be protected and kept safe from harm, and the drama that plagues the world. We all know they will learn of this plague soon enough when they hit their teens, and into pre-adulthood.
And yes here we go again with the Toxic People. Now myself and my hubby have both made it clear we have stepped back. But what 11 year is going to step back from those who 'claim' they love him unconditionally.
Nicholas doesn't understand why his Granny (My father's ex-wife) was in his life up till last summer and when she found out my father remarried, and she no longer had use for us to find out about what my dad was up to, she cut him out of her life. Zilch! Just like that. She went from calling a few times a week, holidays and just because to na-da, nothing, not one damn phone call not even for his birthday. Well I have news for that bitch, she needn't cross my path in this lifetime again cause she has an ass kickin' coming. Btw Betty, if you are reading this, this is NOT a threat, this IS a promise. So until I make good on it there is NOTHING the law can do because it is not a threat.
Now to the hubby's family, the most Toxic bunch I have EVER met in my entire life! And believe me with my first hubby being in the public career he was, I have met a LOT of people over the years and since. You would think that after hearing for nearly a year & half that 'if only' we'd move back to good ole' Louisiana that they would come visit, they would take an active part in their then only grandson's life. Well we made that leap, we moved back here and in the first 7 years they visited no more then a handful of times, only participated in his sports once and that was football and what's even more sad is the last birthday they spoke to him was 2006 and that was due to free food & cake I believe! His self=proclaimed (but not active) uncle James claims he missed him, wants to be a part of his life, was coming to visit the week before last. Another friggin LIE! All he wanted was to thwart our intentions of hiring an attorney to sue his sorry white trash ass for defamation of character and slander.
Now back to the so called grandparents. From 2007, till now they have not called him on this birthday, or ANY OTHER day for that matter. Not once. Of course Betty (yes that's my hubby's mother's name as well as my ex-stepmothers) could put her younger grandson on the line with DJ when he called, he was only 2.5 at the time, and you cannot even understand a word that child says. Yet did she ask to speak with Nicholas, HELL NO SHE DIDN'T! I am about to my witts end with that white trash bunch over there in Robert, LA! As far as I'm concerned the same promise goes for them ALL over there!
Along with another hand of white trash so called family they can ALL kiss my Yankee ass & go straight to hell where they belong!
If anyone can give me some insight on how someone can push away a child, their own flesh & blood without a bit of guilt it seems, Please please pleaseeeeee let me know what makes these people tick. I really am at my wits end and tired of making lame excuses to my son for their behavior.
Well now, I hope you will excuse my vulgar language and rant for the day.
Have a bright, beautiful Sunday!
Peace be with you...
Showing posts with label toxic people. Show all posts
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Sunday, November 22, 2009
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Toxic People...
Call me crazy, paranoid or even insane but one thing I know for certain it that there are just some people on this earth who are toxic. Let me clarify a little more on the term I use 'Toxic People'.
These are not people with diseases or handicaps and it is not people who are physically impaired or mangled. It has nothing to do with race, sexual orientation or even nationality.
It is people who are constantly making trouble for others, ie; lies/gossip/drama and the list goes on, on and on, you know the ones I'm talking about. Bet you know at least one right off the top of your head, don't you?
They can be a loved one or a friend, maybe even a professor, teacher or other daily influence in your life. Any way it goes these people and their tactics/ways bring us down. Even the most upbeat, cheerful and least depressed person you know can be affected by Toxic People.
There are two main types of Toxic People, 1st is the ones who are constant liars, control freaks, perfectionists and drama kings & queens. 2nd are those who go beyond the little white lies and attempts to control your life, these are the worst kind of toxic because they not only lie to you but to others about you, they want to control and sometimes destroy every aspect of your life, some may even be violent in their attempts, others may threaten and keep you in constant turmoil. Either way these people have a greater impact on our day to day lives more then we care to admit.
Now we need to break them up into groups;
Group 1: These are the people you love dearly and no matter what their faults or how much trouble they cause you cannot put them out of your life completely. This might include a parent, brother, sister, best friend, etc.
Group 2: These are the people who you love but who no matter what you do it is never good enough for them, aside from being toxic they are also users who only come calling when they need or want something from you. This too can be a loved one, parent, brother, sister, friend.
The key here is to evaluate the Toxic person in your life, decide if this is a person you can walk away from or is it a person you can teach yourself to lesson the blows of their toxic ways.
For my family there are a circus full of these toxic people. Some worse then others but none the less they are there and believe me the worst of them like to raise hell.
For me personally my experiences have went from my second husband who was not only toxic, but physically/mentally abusive, my father as much as I love him I have had to discipline myself to not let his toxic ways affect me anymore then they have all these years. I have learned to accept he will not change but also I have learned how he can still be in my life without harming me mentally any further then he already has in the past.
For me and my hubby his parents & siblings are WAY beyond your typical toxic people. They go above and beyond to try to break us up, they believe what they are doing is for the better. Their lives are riddled with lies, gossip and constant drama. Even when it doesn't include us there is always something going on that shouldn't be connected to them. For these toxic people we have, well mostly my hubby has decided to shut them out completely after several years of the drama/lies and uncountable number of tries to make things right with them.
For me I have learned to better assess people for who they really are and not for what I want them to be. This helps on many levels because besides being able to sus out the toxic people I have also been able to see the inner qualities some people have but are afraid to share with others.
In all what I would like to see in this world, is peace of mind. I know peace on earth is more of a pipe dream then a reality but if I can produce a peaceful environment for my family by better choosing those people who are a part of it, or how we allow them to be a part of it, then I have went farther then most, and accomplished something that will hopefully become a family tradition passed down to ensure some degree of peace in the home.
Hope you all have a wonderful Hump Day!
Peace be with you...
These are not people with diseases or handicaps and it is not people who are physically impaired or mangled. It has nothing to do with race, sexual orientation or even nationality.
It is people who are constantly making trouble for others, ie; lies/gossip/drama and the list goes on, on and on, you know the ones I'm talking about. Bet you know at least one right off the top of your head, don't you?
They can be a loved one or a friend, maybe even a professor, teacher or other daily influence in your life. Any way it goes these people and their tactics/ways bring us down. Even the most upbeat, cheerful and least depressed person you know can be affected by Toxic People.
There are two main types of Toxic People, 1st is the ones who are constant liars, control freaks, perfectionists and drama kings & queens. 2nd are those who go beyond the little white lies and attempts to control your life, these are the worst kind of toxic because they not only lie to you but to others about you, they want to control and sometimes destroy every aspect of your life, some may even be violent in their attempts, others may threaten and keep you in constant turmoil. Either way these people have a greater impact on our day to day lives more then we care to admit.
Now we need to break them up into groups;
Group 1: These are the people you love dearly and no matter what their faults or how much trouble they cause you cannot put them out of your life completely. This might include a parent, brother, sister, best friend, etc.
Group 2: These are the people who you love but who no matter what you do it is never good enough for them, aside from being toxic they are also users who only come calling when they need or want something from you. This too can be a loved one, parent, brother, sister, friend.
The key here is to evaluate the Toxic person in your life, decide if this is a person you can walk away from or is it a person you can teach yourself to lesson the blows of their toxic ways.
For my family there are a circus full of these toxic people. Some worse then others but none the less they are there and believe me the worst of them like to raise hell.
For me personally my experiences have went from my second husband who was not only toxic, but physically/mentally abusive, my father as much as I love him I have had to discipline myself to not let his toxic ways affect me anymore then they have all these years. I have learned to accept he will not change but also I have learned how he can still be in my life without harming me mentally any further then he already has in the past.
For me and my hubby his parents & siblings are WAY beyond your typical toxic people. They go above and beyond to try to break us up, they believe what they are doing is for the better. Their lives are riddled with lies, gossip and constant drama. Even when it doesn't include us there is always something going on that shouldn't be connected to them. For these toxic people we have, well mostly my hubby has decided to shut them out completely after several years of the drama/lies and uncountable number of tries to make things right with them.
For me I have learned to better assess people for who they really are and not for what I want them to be. This helps on many levels because besides being able to sus out the toxic people I have also been able to see the inner qualities some people have but are afraid to share with others.
In all what I would like to see in this world, is peace of mind. I know peace on earth is more of a pipe dream then a reality but if I can produce a peaceful environment for my family by better choosing those people who are a part of it, or how we allow them to be a part of it, then I have went farther then most, and accomplished something that will hopefully become a family tradition passed down to ensure some degree of peace in the home.
Hope you all have a wonderful Hump Day!
Peace be with you...
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